A recent battle with the feeling of “being a disappointment” sent me into a stealth like cannonball dive into an ocean of self-deprecating internal speech. Once in the water, the waves kept pummeling me. As quick and intense as it was, as tumultuous as those waves got, I noticed I had the option to STOP the emotional waves breaking in my head. This shift in awareness is thanks to years of practicing mindfulness. It’s a constant inner workout of awareness of one's emotions, thoughts and feelings. After practicing mindfulness for a time, this shift to “awareness” becomes an automatic and unconscious action. It was also the first step into surfacing from the white water and existing in the space of calm so I could move forward. Here are the 3 processes I used.
Response process 1 — Mindfulness
The shift in understanding that I could look at these thoughts as just that...thoughts...is life altering. I was not them and they were not me. They were a story I was creating. I quickly imagined myself at the shore alongside a running river, I took these thoughts and words, placed them in large leaves and watched them drift down this river until they were out of sight, an exercise I teach in my mindfulness classes. I often add the sound you hear when you throw out a file into the garbage of a MAC computer. The leaves make that crunching sound as they close around the words and thoughts you placed in them. Grateful now for the PAUSE, I was then able to respond and proceed from a place of stillness.
Response process 2 — Automatic Writing – Connecting to Your Guides
I decided then to check in with my team in spirit, my guides. And so, I wrote ALL the things that were bothering me. Asked ALL the questions I wanted to ask pertaining to my situation. I wrote down all the responses from my guides. This is called automatic writing. Sometimes the information comes in so quickly I can’t write fast enough. This is a process we can all do. The more you do it the stronger your connection to spirit opens up and the more you can benefit. (As always, I can help with this process of connecting you to your guides.) This always leaves me feeling balanced, clear and grounded.
Response process 3 — Translation®
I added a third exercise to round out this healing session. I used a process called Translation® which I learned from the Prosperos School of Ontology. They describe this process as “Learn(ing) to see through what seems to be - limitation, anxiety, oppression - to Truth which lies waiting for your discovery. Not "the Truth" - there is no "the Truth" - but Truth: reality, wholeness, innate integrity. Your Ontological identity is ever-present, awaiting recognition.” It is a priceless tool that helps transmute falsity to conscious truth. I suggest you visit www.theprosperos.org for more information and classes on this process. “Translation class provides the fundamental resource required for shedding limitation, disorder, and confusion from your world: straight thinking in the abstract.”
These three processes, used individually or together, can help get you to a place of stillness where you can then become grounded, gain guidance and bring to light your truth as pure consciousness unfolding. They can lead to resolution in unexpected ways. For me, it showed up as an unexpected conversation that I was able to present my thoughts with ease and grace and resulted in positive conclusions that helped me move forward.
To Wrap up:
The Response Trifecta
Three tools for healing, guidance and conscious growth.
1. Mindfulness. This practice will build your ability to open up that space between reaction and response. Strengthening your ability to pause and become aware of your thoughts, feelings and emotions without judgment.
2. Automatic Writing — connection with your guides. You have a team around you that wants to support you! They will if you ask. This is a way to engage with them and find out answers or simply reset and ground yourself.
3. Translation®. As stated previously, ”...the fundamental resource required for shedding limitation, disorder, and confusion from your world: straight thinking in the abstract.”
A Day With Mom.
Written by Esthela Nunez)
I received an unexpected, heartwarming surprise in the mail. A children’s book with a note that read; “Well, it’s finally here! The book I wrote in honor of my son, Jacob. You helped me (last fall) to connect with my son who passed before he was born in 2005. I remember your first comment was about him being happy with a new toy. A toy with a long neck. Well...a giraffe is a symbol on his headstone. A lot of things you told me are featured in this book. Him spending time with me while I do my hair. Him wrapping himself on my leg. Him showering me with golden light. I hope you enjoy the book...as I mentioned it before, thank you for introducing me to my son.”
What a beautiful way to connect with her son in spirit! I wanted to share this with you in the hopes that it may help heal others who have children who have passed and serve as a beautiful example of how one can connect to a loved one who has passed over. It is healing for Esthela, for Jacob (in spirit) and, I believe, for anyone who reads it.
Thank you Esthela for sharing this with me and the world. I am certain Jacob is thrilled!
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Today I woke up to lots and lots of rain. Since I don't get to walk in the rain too often here in sunny SoCal, and since I didn't have the car to drive, I thought it would be nice to walk in the rain to get some coffee at the Starbucks a few blocks away. And so, with umbrella in hand, I started walking. Normally, as I walk, I try to remember to be mindfully aware of my surroundings; feeling the pavement under my feet, breathing in the air, feeling the sun, or in this case... the rain... on my skin. I teach mindful walking to kids and try and practice it myself. Today though, I spent some time lost in thought, life’s issues running laps around my head. And BAM! In an instant, I noticed those thoughts move on in a flash and were replaced with my own voice singing the verse to a song. It felt as if I had been singing all the while these worries dashed through my head. My first thought was, “how can you be walking, singing a song and lost in worrisome thought all at the same time?” I guess it's all good...awareness without judgement! I then focused on the song. The words I was singing were: "Hey, I be gone today... I love you, I love you, I love you..." I knew the song, I could hear the music in my head but I didn’t know the lyrics all that well. I knew what I was singing wasn’t exactly correct and I didn't know who sang it. What I did know was; that it popped up out of nowhere, I haven't heard it in forever, and, most importantly, it made me feel good. I had a gut feeling it was in my head for a reason, a gift from someone to raise my spirit and knock me out of my current "worry" mind.
I made it to Starbucks, got my coffee and croissant and walked home. I sang the same broken up verse to the music playing in my head the entire way back. When I got home, I took a few minutes to do a grounding meditation and then asked who sent me this song? Before I could finish asking the question, my Dad popped in and waved at me...big smiling face. I felt a burst of warmth in my chest, the kind I get when I know I am connecting to spirit. I thanked him...it made my day! I had a strong feeling it was him as he had done this in the past with the Beatles song, “Here Comes the Sun.”
I googled the lyrics that I did know and found out the song is "Say Hey," by Michael Franti and Spearhead. Here it is if you’d like to take a listen: Michael Franti & Spearhead - Say Hey I Love You
What I want to pass on from this morning’s walk is:
1. Trust your gut, when something pops up out of the blue and you feel it's given to you from a passed loved one it usually is. They want to connect with you.
2. As intuitive beings, we really need to practice to become aware of signs from our loved ones in spirit and our guides. It’s a skill.
3. We are not alone. You are supported by an awesome team in spirit.
4. You have the right to trust your intuition.
Thank you Dad! “I love you, I love you, I Love you” too